I don't know how to take compliments. On the job or off
I hate fake ones that pander, placate, patronize or otherwise blow smoke. I feel weird knowing it's a lie and wanting to be tactful. Those are less common.
(On the job example) But when I've put big effort into trying to be a pt advocate or a good parrner or peer or even a good person. It's weird. Growing up it was "You shouldn't be rewarded, complimented, or recognized for doing what you should be doing already or simply not being bad" was prevalent. And I agree
But like when people take both your hands and really give a heartfelt thanks and genuinely thank you I'm just like
"Uhhhhhhhhh"
And it seems ill fitting and not professional or respectful of their effort to try and share their feelings with me. (Same if they're mad but I can fix that)
I can't be like "Of course I've earned praise please give it to me" and I don't think that is true.
But I don't want to not seem ... grateful or genuine or like I don't care or something.
I just like the idea of someone realizing they meant something to someone. That there are people who help. Maybe someone they never see again but hopefully had a good impact on them.
And I wish they wouldn't try and remember me specifically or something. I like the idea of an anonymous helper or giver. Seems more special like that.
I don't like it when they try and tip me or try to somehow pay a debt that doesn't exist or make up for something that needs not making up for. The reward is the deed done right.
So what do y'all think? What's a good way to take compliments without being awkward.