Work "spouse"

Good idea to partake in?

  • Yes

    Votes: 1 6.7%

  • No

    Votes: 14 93.3%
  • Total voters
    15
NysEms2117 said:
Is there a such thing as a work place pimp?
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No clue. I go to work--->clock in--->perform said tasks I am paid--->clock out (hopefully at a reasonable time)--->go home. The term exists, and isn't going away anytime soon. It's hardly a west coast thing. I never said I agreed with it's analogy, I mean after all, you're talking to happily married man of 11 years with kids to raise. I have bigger fish to fry, my friend.
 
VentMonkey said:
No clue. I go to work--->clock in--->perform said tasks I am paid--->clock out (hopefully at a reasonable time)--->go home. The term exists, and isn't going away anytime soon. It's hardly a west coast thing. I never said I agreed with it's analogy, I mean after all, you're talking to happily married man of 11 years with kids to raise. I have bigger fish to fry, my friend.
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True. That's what I do too!! Can I have some scallops with lemon on the side with rice??


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VentMonkey said:
Addendum: Fish don't fry in my kitchen, and beans don't burn on my grill:)...
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Personally I think it's kinda disrespectful to a real spouse to refer to a co-worker as a 'spouse'. If neither are married I guess there's nothing bad about it.
 
Kevinf said:
Usually defined as the intimacy of a marriage without the sex.
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And THIS is how it starts. Very few affairs start as a purely sexual event. Emotional affairs are just as disastrous and sometimes MORE disastrous than a physical affair.

Again, emotional affairs (exactly what you stated in the quotes) is how a relationship grows, becomes physical and who knows what after that.
 
I have a work mom, work dad, and work crazy uncle. Not a work wife though, that would be a bit odd and as understanding as my girlfriend is, it might make for some awkward discussions.
 
I love when this topic comes up. It's entertaining to read the opinions, presented as dogma, that a workplace romance is necessarily a bad thing.

The truth is, it depends. At one extreme are the marriages that dissolve acrimoniously, with young kids paying the price for bad decisions by adults who should know better. At the other extreme are long-term, nurturing relationships that grow between EMS partners and succeed despite all the reasons others believe they won't. While the chances of the latter are probably less than the former because there are so many non-EMS reasons for relationships to break down, that doesn't mean anyone can say what the outcome will be for any specific pair. Sometimes workplace couples get it right.

I say this after 12 wonderful years of marriage to my former EMS partner.
 
The "nurturing relationship which grows between EMS partners" is the issue amigo. If you have chosen a spouse, you need to lean on that spouse for emotional support, you need to love that spouse. When you start referring to someone else as a "work wife/work husband" you are mentally replacing one partner with another. Step 1 accomplished, the rest easily follows.

If you cannot do this at home either due to your inability to communicate or your partner's inability to listen and relate, then start dating...outside the job. Don't play house while on duty and mentally/emotionally put each other in that role.

MGR22, your comments mostly indicate a work place romance....which is different from what the OP presented regarding the benefits of having a "Work Wife".

Here is a twist for you....I have been in EMS a LONG time. I have had female friends I was very close to. I also have had male friends I bonded with on a level not typical for most male/male friendships. Just a few guys we "clicked" and discussed deeper topics and shared deeper thoughts. Which one of us was the "work husband" and does that make me gay? I mean I did cook a few times for him/us and he returned the favor. Damn, a few times he brought me coffee!!! Wait!! Were we dating? Am I gay?

I mean I had all the benefits minus the sex.
 
Ak, I guess I was responding more to some of the replies than to the OP.

I agree with the other stuff you were getting into: "work wives/husbands" can destroy marriages that, otherwise, might have lasted, and that male-male partnerships can be just as strong.
 
I'm with @akflightmedic, I have friends at work. I have close friends at work. I even have people that I set a goal to be like... At work. Once your start using the same terms given to those you love your well into replacing those people. If you want to actually date somebody who goes from being your "work wife" to your wife wife. Go for it!(provided your not already dating/engaged/married to somebody else.
 
My medic a few years ago would call me her work husband...to her boyfriend...who then began working for us. It made me a bit uncomfortable (I was in a relationship as well, and my girlfriend did not like this girl). So no, I don't think it's a good idea unless you're both single. And even then, it's kinda cheesy.
 
I think the masses have spoken, and judging by the fact that the op has all but up and vanished and their "poll" was a lopsided vote there isn't much left to it.

Again, this truly a silly thing to create a thread about. In other words no one cares what you and your partner call each other, op. Whatever happened to somethings being better left unsaid?
 
akflightmedic said:
Here is a twist for you....I have been in EMS a LONG time. I have had female friends I was very close to. I also have had male friends I bonded with on a level not typical for most male/male friendships. Just a few guys we "clicked" and discussed deeper topics and shared deeper thoughts. Which one of us was the "work husband" and does that make me gay? I mean I did cook a few times for him/us and he returned the favor. Damn, a few times he brought me coffee!!! Wait!! Were we dating? Am I gay?
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Oh boy, I was involved in that with multiple people at once! What does that make me?
 
I had a "work wife" once. I being a heterosexual male, her being a homosexual female, I honestly couldn't imagine what could go wrong.

One day, shortly before the end of our shift, we decided imbibation of ethanol containing beverages was in order. In an effort to be conscientious, I called the GF and asked if we had plans that night(she had a habit of scheduling things and not telling me). We did not; in fact, she was working that not. "Ok honey, I'm going out for a drink with Allie after work. See you tomorrow."(made sure to mention whom I would be drinking with). No objections. The next day, a picture of the two of us, fully clothed, not in physical contact, hardly discernible as even knowing each other is posted on Facebook. Calamity ensues, predictably.

I no longer engage in affectionate gestures, verbal or physical, with women I'm not affectionate towards. I also no longer have Facebook. Which is more beneficial to me in the long run I'm not sure, but both lifestyle changes are hear to stay.
 
I would give anything to have such a relationship again or atleast a good one. I'm currently stuck working with the partner from Hell.

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