Tying the knot in 2 days...

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so i'm getting married in 2 days...

anyone have any advise/wisdom/etc... they'd like to give me?
 
I have a huge one. And I believe I said this elsewhere. If you get upset at the job, something has you angry... just put out.. whatever. Do not take it out on your spouse. Talk to them about it to get it off your chest, but dont make them your beating post. What happens to you is never your spouses fault and they shouldn't be made to suffer for the actions of others.

Thats just coming from a currently very raw spot in dealing with a husband who has PTSD. ;)
 
Run!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
First... congratulations!

What Bunkie said. Leave it on the streets! The same can be said for anyone in any profession though.

My advice: Elope! LOL The wedding day was a blur for both of us. Sure, we remember it and had a good time but it was sure tiring. Are you going on a honeymoon right away?
 
medic417 said:
Run!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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That made me wonder... should we have a sequel to "Run Away Bride" about grooms that take off? LOL
 
Don't go into this with the expectations that someone else will change. If you are thinking you can change things about someone so that you will like them better, you are in for a rough ride!
 
8jimi8 said:
Don't go into this with the expectations that someone else will change. If you are thinking you can change things about someone so that you will like them better, you are in for a rough ride!
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Oh yes, I completely agree with this. On the same token, expect that they may change and never be the person they were on the day you married them again after a few years. ;)
 
DV_EMT said:
so i'm getting married in 2 days...

anyone have any advise/wisdom/etc... they'd like to give me?
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DONT TO IT!!!!! But, if you do, good luck. Remember, to communicate with each other. It's the only way to get through the bad times (we didn't, that's why I get to sign papers on tuesday)
 
The best advice I could give you is don't get married

DV_EMT said:
so i'm getting married in 2 days...

anyone have any advise/wisdom/etc... they'd like to give me?
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All jokes aside, good luck man!!
 
I hope you guys lived together for a few months atleast before you get married. That's the common factor in atleast 6 of my friends divorces. None of them lived together before hand or she was pregnant and they got married in a hurry. It's hard to live with someone even if you think you know them. Visiting alot isn't living together either.

There was a silly article done by I think a UK source in which couples who were married for x amount of years (don't remember specifically but it was over 30 years). They were asked if they were happy and if they said yes, they were asked the secret and the overwhelming response was the reason "The sex life has to stay active". It wasn't a scholarly survey but just a quirky article that has a bit of the truth in it :)

Oh and leave work at work, try not to go to bed angry, and be prepared to discover quirks about her in several years. My wife and I have been together for 6 years (this October) and married for two (as of this year) and I still find things that drive me insane. It's all about comprimise.
 
so how does tying a know and marriage have anything in common?
 
DV_EMT said:
so i'm getting married in 2 days...

anyone have any advise/wisdom/etc... they'd like to give me?
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don't get married.
 
thanks everyone for your comments. We've been living together for about 6 months and everything has been running smooth... more or less. we're both pretty good about compromise (I think that's because we both are medically minded). So yeah, I think things will work out well. I'm a tad nervous but also excited. Wish me luck.


oh... and as for the kids portion of married life.... not gonna happen for a few years. Gotta get through medic school 1st!
 
Gonna go against the grain and say do it if you really are sure it's right. If not, don't.

Pick your battles. Is it really worth an argument? If it is, try to keep it civil. Some things just can't be unsaid.

If you make a promise, keep it. If you're thinking about breaking it, you need to talk to your spouse about it and/or get counseling. Broken trust is often impossible to recover.

Don't sweat the wedding. It's just one crazy day.

If you don't want kids just yet, be super-careful about birth control and decide together what you're going to do if pregnancy happens anyways. Having kids too early (or having an abortion) started several divorces I've seen.

Keep friends outside the relationship. Of all the couples I've known who've focused only on each other and cut out all their friends, all are divorced now.
 
Don't let your wife find out about your girlfriend and things will be great!!:rolleyes:
 
The shortest fairy tale ever....

A woman asked a man to marry her... He said NO and he lived happily ever after. :)

Good luck mate!
 
I asked my grandfather one time how he had managed to remain married for 60 plus years. He looked me straight in the eye and said, "The two most important words in a marriage are not 'I do', but 'Yes, dear.'"
 
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