Im seeing both sides here, and I believe that everything I could say has been said.
Effectively, the OP is stating that he elected to collar this pt because the guidelines under which he provides care state that he is required to. At some agencies, those guidelines are a bit flexible. If you have involved medical direction and management who will support you making judgement based decisions in the best interest of the pt, then more power to you. In reading this thread, I find it unlikely that is the case.
Along that regard, the OP shouldn't be crucified for making a decision based on the above, instead I would argue that it is an all to common(and in some cases necessary) breakdown of the system:-(
The attitude and "questionable" decision making amongst the involved parties speaks for itself.
In my experience, if a partner has an issue with something that is said or done, he/she is doing you a favor by coming to you first, as alternative reactions seem to be far more common. Additionally, given that most providers I have encountered have reasonably thick skin, Im fairly certain that there is more to the story, and the statement you made to your partner was not quite as innocent as you make it seem.
Apologies for the spotty grammar/spelling...I'm tired
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