Dating and beyond in EMS

[reaper]

It's not for everyone, but it has worked for me!

 

[Sapphyre]

My wife says I am not allowed to date friends, co-workers or patients. There goes my plans for the weekend.

hahaha, you know, my husband says the same thing.

 

[MSDeltaFlt]

Ok, I realize this topic has probably been beaten to death in some old, dusty thread but I want to revive it.

Back story: I went to donate blood the other day and the phleb was gorgeous - a former army medic. We chatted it up quite a bit and I came very, very, very close to asking him out, but didn't, because I didn't want to put him in an awkward situation on the job (and because I'm a coward).

So I have a few questions for everyone.

If you were single and had an attractive patient slip you their phone number, would you call them later? If they were someone you would definitely date if you had met them say, through a friend or at the gym, does meeting them as their care provider make them automatically off limits?

Thoughts on coworkers dating? Even if they keep the relationship away from work - what happens if they have a nasty split?

How about other public safety folks that you work with on a regular basis? Is it acceptable to ask that cute firefighter for a date after the fire's out? How about the ER nurse?

What are your boundaries when it comes to patients, colleagues and coworkers?

It depends on the vibe, Lucid. It depends on the vibe. I'm neither for it nor against it.

 

[BossyCow]

hahaha, you know, my husband says the same thing.

A co-worker of one of my brothers asked him if I dated married men. His reply was... just one.. him... (pointing to my husband)

I've been out of the dating pool for over 20 years so I have no first hand experience. My husband and I have run some pretty gnarly calls together and we work really well as a team because we know each other so well.

I've seen some sucessful match-ups in EMS. One friend was married to an EMT-P who died and some years later, married another one (15 years ago and still together) They are both in EMS but in different systems.

One of the local EMT-Ps is married to one of the ER nurses and all the single medics hit on the gals in admissions at the local hospital. But, in a small town, no matter who you date, you are going to see them again and again and again and again. If you are mature, you'll get through it, if you aren't, it will be ugly.

 

[ChargerGirl]

at my old job i dated a coworker. i had a crush on him forever and dated him while i worked there (restaraunt job) it was always business when we worked together and it was fine not great. switched jobs afterwhile because i was tired of covering his shifts so he could go fishing....we are still together and great even though i work else where which is better

 

[emtashleyb]

I would say no. When I was in high school I dated a guy from another volly station and got crap about if from the stationed I was volunteering at. We broke up and remained friends but the amount of crap I got about being a traditor wasnt worth it. I had a few guys at my old company ask me out but I turned them down I figured not worth the drama and with my luck I would be branded the station slut if I had accepted. Not to mention my dad was in tight with the bigwigs and Im sure it would have gotten to him and well that would have been a fun discusion that Im glad I avoided. Anyway no I think its not a good idea

 

[BLSBoy]

Date? Not really. Took one patient out who came back and gave me her number when I worked in the ER, but thats as far as it went.

Now wild flings, well, thats a different story.

As long as you are mature enough to understand what is expected in the relationship, go for it!

God knows I have had my share of fun.

 

[EMTCop86]

I would go against dating your coworkers. I had a personal experience that ended up horribly. That is when I learned to never crap where I eat! If you want to try it that is up to you, just know the consequences. As far as dating patients I would say that isn't a good idea either but I honestly don't know what I would do if the situation presented itself. Luckily I'm married so that won't be an issue for me.

 

[BLSBoy]

I would go against dating your coworkers. I had a personal experience that ended up horribly. That is when I learned to never crap where I eat!

If you consider dating or, uh, "messing around" crapping, perhaps you need to reevaluate a few things.....

 

[EMTCop86]

if you consider dating or, uh, "messing around" crapping, perhaps you need to reevaluate a few things.....

lol .......