I know quite a few medics who have been in the business longer than I have been alive, great medics, and have never once observed them or heard about them being unnecessairly rough with any patient, no matter if the patient has threatened them, yanked out IVs, been an AIDS/HIV patient who tried to intentionally bite them/expose them to the infected fluids and called them everything but a child of god.
It happens. To everyone. If you haven't seen it, you haven't been around very long. If you haven't heard them talk about it, it because its not everyday open conversation. Make a point to ask them if they have ever put a 14g in someone because they were drunk/beligerant/violent/ect. Or have they ever inserted an NPA in a pt that they knew was faking unconscious, just because they can. Or some other form of creative "painful" stimulus.
I am known for my "Eating Butterflies, pooping Rainbows" theres a bright side to everything alwasy smiling attitude. And when someone does push the right buttons, the people I work with are often surprised when I am not as pleasent as my norm.
As for what to do if I am.... w.. wr...wr...wro... Yea.. I can't even say it
My partner knows, and has seen it from me when dealing with other Paramedics, that unless what is happening is going to actually cause the patient additional harm... or in one recent case.... the actions are going to actually kill the patient.... there is a time and place to ask questions and correct.
If my partner is going to attempt to correct my or question what I am doing in front of other providers or a physician, they had better make sure their correction is 110% correct. I once had an EMT interrupt my report to the trauma team on an intubated trauma patient. She started with "thats not what happened....." and continued. She wasn't even close to the events. When she took a breath, I sent her out of the room, apologized for her, and continued on with the accurate report. When I finished and met her back at the truck, we came to an understanding that will never happen again.
It is possible for me to be wrong. Sure..... After all, there is a town call Hell, and it does snow there... J/K.
The point is, we all need to understand there is a time and place for everything. And 99% of the time, embarassing your partner (either EMT to Medic.... or Medic to EMT) is never the right time. Thats what the back of the truck, with the doors shut, and its just the two of you is for.
No Witness to the bloodshed!.... hahahahahha!!!