Lets think about this - you're a layperson who has just found their loved one down on the ground, possibly cold to the touch. Do you really want someone to roll in and say "nope, they're already dead," or would you rather they at least pretend to try. The utter apathy demonstrated by some of the medics that I've worked with is appalling. For the love of god, this is someone's moment of need, and if putting on a show worthy of an Academy Award is what they need, then I'm ready for my closeup Mr. Demille.
Just so you know there are serious legal issues with "pretendng" to try.
You definately don't want to end up on the news or in court with "improper" treatment and a dead person.
I encourage you to find out what a resuscitation attempt at your hospital can cost. Nobody needs the grief of that. Especially in an aggresive billing agency that will take a cut out of death benefits first. (if the family has any to begin with) Your little show could put an entire family (multiple generations) on the street.(that may take generations to recover) That is "help" nobody needs.
Medical providers are called upon and respected for their knowledge and skills, not for their ability to put on a show.
If you really want to see how people react to intensive resuscitation efforts, have a look at cardiac post op. Listen in the waiting room to the grief of family memebers who see relatives in that condition with all the machines, sounds, and tubes supporting a patient. When the patients die, that is the image forever.
Being the person to tell a family that they should sign the form to take a loved one (especially a child) off life support sucks. There are also some very inhumane aspects when they say "no."
Yea a funeral sucks, for all those involved, but there are worse things. Last year I saw an 8 year old pt. who went into DIC secondary to sepsis. The family believed it was religiously unacceptable to discontinue life support and demanded all actions be taken. The family kept a 24 hour prayer vigil bedside after both arms, both legs, and the right side of the kid's face including eye were amputated. Then they watched as the necrosis spread across the rest of the face, turning it black until the poor kid finally coded.
Divorces and suicides are caused when vegatative patients need constant care with associated costs.
The family may want a show, it may even make them feel better for a few minutes or hours. But it causes harm in the long term. The number one rule in medicine is not "make people feel good" it is "Do no harm."
There is a such thing as end of life care. Infact it is its own specialty. While your passion and desire to care for people is admirable, it seems you need more education about what caring for people involves. I am sure your local hospice would be happy to teach you about end of life care. Most do it for free.