There's no right or wrong
We're all the same model, but each of us is wired just a bit differently. What gets in to me and causes me to retch may just produce a burp in you.
Each of us goes through trauma in our youth, and that's usually where we learn our most comfortable way of dealing with assaults to our senses, sensibilities or even sense of self.
There's a lot of us out there who are Warriors and embrace the role; after all, to do this work often takes everything we have in reserve. In many areas, it takes all you have to just remain whole. Some of those Warriors think it's okay to even give up their lives in the call of duty! Others think those guys are nuts!
And some of us can actually get through this stuff by Philosophy; a personal understanding of the whys and hows of the choices we make, wrapped around a guiding desire.
Still others understand the work as a heart-driven thing; YES, involvement is a true dedication because of love!
And lampnyter, who has had such stuff not affect him since he was eight years old is for sure working off a skill he learned to preserve himself, and that does NOT mean he lacks compassion. He's found a place to put the stuff.
Maybe that's what I'm trying to say; each of us manages to learn where to put the stuff. But my point is everyone can learn from each other here because indeed there ARE different styles of coping and different things to use to work through what amount to assaults.
But don't forget; what works today may not work tomorrow. What is a cool breeze today may knock your socks off next week!
When you work on the edge of life and death, you expose yourself to weirdness. In that we are ALL Brothers and Sisters. It comes in all shapes and sizes and lives within us and without us.
Why come to conclusions about others' coping mechanisms, and presenting your own as the way to go and then stopping there? EMS is not a world of certainty, it is as fluid as any profession gets.
If I have a point it's to encourage everyone here to not STOP the flow of anyone's process of figuring things out for themselves. Help them better understand alternatives that worked for you, and then let it go.