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@Idontevenknow... is there a duel EMT truck? or EMT/Medic? I'm thinking the former....
I have some question about your initial post:
One my first day I met him and I told him this my first day off training and his facial expression changed in a bad way made me feel discouraged. He is a nice quiet younger guy but sometimes he makes smart remarks. I’m obviously new this my first emt job so I don’t know everything.
fair enough, and common
At first he really didn’t help at first unless I asked him but now he tells me what to do all the time.
Just like you are feeling him out, he's seeing what you know, and how you run the call.
Even when I’m doing patient care he takes over and I feel like I’m his assistant. He also messes up my routine.
You're a new EMT. he's a more experienced EMT. He has a been there, done that attitude, and many in our industry don't want to deal with new people, esp those they don't know if they can do the job well. not saying it's right, only that it's common.
One time we had an AMA (refusal) and he told me to go cancel fire as they pull up but I’m the one who is supposed to be getting patient information since I’m the one with iPad. I didn’t get patients demographics because I was explaining to fire the situation. How come he didn’t go do that.
Key up radio, "FD you can cancel" go back to documentation. if he's interacting with the patient, it's appropriate for him to ask someone else to cancel the FD.
He messed up my routine and report. I know I should be the one getting all the info but he tells me what to do and I am naive and scared chicken still since I’m new. I’m started to get frustrated because he does everything for me. He calls all the shots and I feel like I can’t learn on my own.
I will also suggest that if you are as new as you say, you are too new have your own "routine" because your routine needs to involve your partner. If he's your perm partner, than you need to change "your routine" to become "your crews routine." Welcome to EMS and working with a full time partner.
Everytime I mess up he makes me feel dumb, he listens to my radio report to the hospital and makes me nervous and he literally tells me what to say and I mess up and look stupid and I start stuttering. When I do it alone I’m fine.
He's literally making sure you don't mess up. Think of it as FTO without the FTO pay. I didn't say he's a good FTO, but he knows what is expected. Also, you might be fine when doing it alone, but you also don't know if you are messing up.
When we go to a call he starts asking questions for example to the nurse while I’m talking to the patient and then I’ll ask the nurse and she tells me she already gave the report and I didn’t hear it so I ask him and he barely tells me anything.
So tell the nurse you can give the report again, just to make sure nothing gets missed. It's called improving the transfer of care. And yes, you and your partner need to work on your commuication.
At this point I feel like I’m doing everything wrong, I feel discouraged and dumb and incapable of doing the job, self doubting myself. Im tired of feeling incompetent. I wish I had a new partner I would probably be a better emt. Or do I need to grow some and just don’t pay attention to him. What should I do?
Are you able to do OT? are you able to do a swap with someone else to another partner, for something different? See how the interactions are different? Back when I was full time on the truck, I did a routine swap to do something different and because it helps with my school schedule, and picked up OT in the burbs when I wanted to get out of the city. And every time I pissed off the scheduling lady and was assigned to the CCT truck, I did whatever I could to get moved to a 911 truck (we were in the same station) or offered to move to the PICU transport.
Realistically, in EMS, you will work with all types of people. some better than others. Some are good with their perm partners, and horrible with everyone else. And yes, working with a perm partner takes a while, so you can learn his methods and he can learn yours, so you can develop your own grooves as a team.
I would also encourage you to speak to your partner. He might not even realize what he's doing (it is just how he has always done things). I'll say I'm at the point in my career where I will rarely take the lead on a patient encounter (I am now on a FD QRV, not an ambulance), so if my partner is doing fine, I'm happy getting demographic information, taking notes, etc. the only time I will step in is if I see something critical that my partner doesn't immediately address, and I will do it in a way that doesn't make my partner look bad in front of the patient. But if my partner asks if I want to treat (typically while we are driving), I'm game.
BTW, gossip in EMS is rampant. It's like high school, but with ambulances. It gets even worse when it comes to who is sleeping with who. Many moons ago, I put in for a transfer, only to be denied by my operations coordinator due to "clinical competency concerns." Apparently some of the supervisors had heard that I didn't know what I was doing from certain popular people. When I asked why the clinical coordinator, who I saw every week, had never addressed these "concerns" he said "hmmmmmmm." The next time we had opening, he said I could pick which spot I wanted. Don't stress it, and do your job, you'll be fine.
