I feel like I'm asking this in the wrong forum since most of you will be biased but at the same time one of the better ones to ask because you guys are actually involved with it. So idk but...
A girl Im seeing is on her way to becoming an EMT. Didn't know much about it, so did my research. After hearing about the very long odd hours, very low pay, high levels of stress, some going to drugs or alcohol to relax, possible PTSD, missing out on all holidays and special occasions , and having this girl be with her partner more than me most likely, the high chances of cheating, going to bed alone most nights, and very high divorce rates. I just dont think thats the type of relationship I want to be in. Doesn't even sound like much of a relationship. I think I'd begin to slowly feel disconnected to her over time. On top of that, this girl is already at a high risk for getting divorced since her parents did and she basically grew up without a father. Combine the two and its not looking too good for me.
I feel kinda of shallow and bad for this, but at the same time thinking about my future and what I want
I havent been seeing her for long so its not like this is a relationship thats been going on for years and then she decided to become an EMT after a steady happy relationship. It's more like she'll be done school in about 4 months so our relationship would be very new if it got to that point which I think would make the whole situation even more difficult to deal with.
What are your guys' experience with new relationships with EMT's or others in EMS? I feel like it's not worth it. Especially since this is so new, we havent seen each other long, and girl is one of the less attractive girls I've been with. I know I can do better, I've been with some incredible looking women with great families and I'm sure they would have a much more safe, higher paying job where I could actually spend a good amount of time with them. But at the same time my feelings about her are taking me in another direction.
A girl Im seeing is on her way to becoming an EMT. Didn't know much about it, so did my research. After hearing about the very long odd hours, very low pay, high levels of stress, some going to drugs or alcohol to relax, possible PTSD, missing out on all holidays and special occasions , and having this girl be with her partner more than me most likely, the high chances of cheating, going to bed alone most nights, and very high divorce rates. I just dont think thats the type of relationship I want to be in. Doesn't even sound like much of a relationship. I think I'd begin to slowly feel disconnected to her over time. On top of that, this girl is already at a high risk for getting divorced since her parents did and she basically grew up without a father. Combine the two and its not looking too good for me.
I feel kinda of shallow and bad for this, but at the same time thinking about my future and what I want
I havent been seeing her for long so its not like this is a relationship thats been going on for years and then she decided to become an EMT after a steady happy relationship. It's more like she'll be done school in about 4 months so our relationship would be very new if it got to that point which I think would make the whole situation even more difficult to deal with.
What are your guys' experience with new relationships with EMT's or others in EMS? I feel like it's not worth it. Especially since this is so new, we havent seen each other long, and girl is one of the less attractive girls I've been with. I know I can do better, I've been with some incredible looking women with great families and I'm sure they would have a much more safe, higher paying job where I could actually spend a good amount of time with them. But at the same time my feelings about her are taking me in another direction.
If your fears were even anywhere close to reality, its a wonder any of us manage to form to same human relationships as anyone else does