PeopleDeliveryBoy
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This is a problem I have been dealing with for awhile.
I've been an EMT-P for bout 4 years now. EMT in general for around 8. I love the job, love my coworkers and I adore what I do. But one problem I have, is I can't stop thinking about what I've seen happening to those I love the most. To the point where I can't even undress my wife without imagining her body on an autopsy table being poked by gloved hands, having lost many pt's of her body type and age before. It's debilitating.
I can't laugh with my mom without imagining her motionless and torn on the side of the highway.
I can't make a new friend without seeing them badly Injured, air coming out a laceration in their trachea in attempts to scream with a dreadful gargle. The coppery taste of blood in the back of my throat.
I can't even see my dog do something cute without imagining her paralyzed and scared or gasping for air.
I can't even look at my 6 month old child without imagining her skin blue, face pale with sunken eyes, unresponsive. With the miserable wails of her anguished helpless mother.
I keep distancing myself because of this, it isn't right. Because these things have not happened to them. They probably won't, but worrying won't prevent that. I KNOW that.
Now these are just a few examples, of real instances my mind brings me daily. All of them from real experiences, sites and sounds.
I try so hard to be optimistic, but it's not as easy as people make it out to be. I can't be alone in all of this. There has to be a way to reverse it. I love my job, and have little problem recovering from dealing with losing PT's who are strangers. When in the moment, I handle everything near perfect. I am fazed by nothing. I can see gruesome sites without a second thought. But I want to know, how I can have a healthy family relationship again without the what-ifs. I can't be the only one, seriously. Someone has to have solved this by now. And I apologize if this isn't in the right forum, I didn't want to take too much time to search because I didn't want to lose these thoughts while I had them
Heartfelt responses would be very greatly appreciated. Even if you have no answers, seeing similar experiences will help tremendously. No matter how small. Thank you for reading
I've been an EMT-P for bout 4 years now. EMT in general for around 8. I love the job, love my coworkers and I adore what I do. But one problem I have, is I can't stop thinking about what I've seen happening to those I love the most. To the point where I can't even undress my wife without imagining her body on an autopsy table being poked by gloved hands, having lost many pt's of her body type and age before. It's debilitating.
I can't laugh with my mom without imagining her motionless and torn on the side of the highway.
I can't make a new friend without seeing them badly Injured, air coming out a laceration in their trachea in attempts to scream with a dreadful gargle. The coppery taste of blood in the back of my throat.
I can't even see my dog do something cute without imagining her paralyzed and scared or gasping for air.
I can't even look at my 6 month old child without imagining her skin blue, face pale with sunken eyes, unresponsive. With the miserable wails of her anguished helpless mother.
I keep distancing myself because of this, it isn't right. Because these things have not happened to them. They probably won't, but worrying won't prevent that. I KNOW that.
Now these are just a few examples, of real instances my mind brings me daily. All of them from real experiences, sites and sounds.
I try so hard to be optimistic, but it's not as easy as people make it out to be. I can't be alone in all of this. There has to be a way to reverse it. I love my job, and have little problem recovering from dealing with losing PT's who are strangers. When in the moment, I handle everything near perfect. I am fazed by nothing. I can see gruesome sites without a second thought. But I want to know, how I can have a healthy family relationship again without the what-ifs. I can't be the only one, seriously. Someone has to have solved this by now. And I apologize if this isn't in the right forum, I didn't want to take too much time to search because I didn't want to lose these thoughts while I had them
Heartfelt responses would be very greatly appreciated. Even if you have no answers, seeing similar experiences will help tremendously. No matter how small. Thank you for reading