I agree, but the OP described an ETOH female post head-on MVC presenting as combative. I saw nothing inappropriate there, rather I saw an OP that didn't understand the risk associated with not performing the procedure.
I've gone toe-to-toe with physicians and nurses over crappy medicine on more than one occasion. Agreed we can't knock people out over emotions or bad behavior...to a point. If they present a danger to themselves or others to the point the amount of chemical sedation required endangers their airway, they still buy a tube.
If anything I've seen far less inappropriate intubations by physicians than paramedics.
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I am a firm believer in prophylactic RSI, especially with this particular presentation. An altered individual, regardless of origin (alcohol or CHI), that is acting inappropriate after being involved in a head on collision will be getting intubated until fully evaluated by a trauma team. I'm not even too concerned about the injury to self aspect, but they are not going to injure me, nor are they going to injure the rest of the crew. Our helicopter, our rules. If you don't want to play by them, you have analgesia, sedation, paralytics, and plastic coming your way. Period.
OP, it sounds as if there was some communication that was lost in translation. Regardless, you cannot allow the physician refusal to bother you. There are patients that are appropriate for you to practice on and there patients that are no appropriate for you to practice on. Perhaps the situation and severity of the patient were the determining factors here and not the perceived attitude of the physician?
I am curious though, a lot of the responses have hit on the point of who the student should be shadowing. Does your program not have a Paramedic preceptor that is with you in the ER? Most of the hospitals around Houston require it as part of the contractural agreement.