I used to work for a rural fire department, I worked there for about 4 months, I was an EMT for them, I am not yet fire certified, I was on friendly terms with everyone there, I got along with everyone, with the exception of one man who seemed to really dislike me, it was the first day that I had met him, he lashed out at me verbally in a very unprofessional and totally unacceptable way, it was a completely unjustified attack, and I was told that it would be taken care of, and that he would not be treating me that way again, everything seemed fine, I had explained what happened to a female friend of mine from another neighboring department, she said don't worry about it, I later told my higher up about the "incident". at his request, I wrote an account of the "incident". After reading it, he said that all looked in order, and not to worry about it, that I was not going to be in any trouble and that if anything happened at all, it would be some kind of slap on the hand so to speak, because I had spoken up for myself as the man was verbally attacking me, I was told I shouldn't have said anything to him, that I should have not tried to stand up for myself and that instead, I should have just went and told the Captain, so I was told I might get a small write up as a formality, but nothing that would in any way stay in my file, I was told that there were alot of things that should have happened, like the LT. at the time putting a stop to it, which he failed to do as he sat right there and watched, I was told if there was any "paperwork" at all, that it was just a formality and not to worry.........then......I went to work one day and I was called into the office by the Captain, who handed me my letter of resignation, and long story short, he told me i needed to sign it or they would have to fire me and that would ruin my career in the fire service, I was in tears, shocked, horrified, confused, I felt betrayed, I felt so many things I just cant write them all, I couldn't
stop crying, I didn't know what to do, he kept telling me that I could sign the letter and resign, and that way when I got a job at another department there wouldn't be anything in my "file" and that it would look good for me, but that if I didn't sign the letter I would be fired and then everyone would know and it would be a mark on my name forever, I was so hurt and overwhelmed and scared and confused, I didn't know what to do so I signed the letter, and I left. after I spoke to some friends in the fire service about it, they said I did not have to sign that letter and that they bullied me into it, and that It sounded like "the boys club" crap, and that I shouldn't have signed it, but I didn't know any better, I am fairly young and this was my first job as an EMT and my first job with the fire department, I know there is alot of experience on this board, alot of people with time in the fire service, can you please give me your advice and thoughts on this? if there is anything I need to clear up and explain better please let me know, I am trying to be vague about names and rank, but if there is anything I can explain better let me know. thanks.
stop crying, I didn't know what to do, he kept telling me that I could sign the letter and resign, and that way when I got a job at another department there wouldn't be anything in my "file" and that it would look good for me, but that if I didn't sign the letter I would be fired and then everyone would know and it would be a mark on my name forever, I was so hurt and overwhelmed and scared and confused, I didn't know what to do so I signed the letter, and I left. after I spoke to some friends in the fire service about it, they said I did not have to sign that letter and that they bullied me into it, and that It sounded like "the boys club" crap, and that I shouldn't have signed it, but I didn't know any better, I am fairly young and this was my first job as an EMT and my first job with the fire department, I know there is alot of experience on this board, alot of people with time in the fire service, can you please give me your advice and thoughts on this? if there is anything I need to clear up and explain better please let me know, I am trying to be vague about names and rank, but if there is anything I can explain better let me know. thanks.