I'm so sorry about your mother. I hope she's recovering.
It's hard to deal with family because of the emotional attachment you naturally have. I'd echo Daedalus and urge you to seek out some form of counseling. Needn't be some in-depth, long-term relationship with Sigmund Freud, sometimes just talking the situation out with someone helps.
On the plus side, you were there when there was a crisis and you and your wife were able to help. That is a good thing, even if it was almost certainly a scary one.
By all means don't carry this alone, and don't wait until you have the perfect counselor, either. Anyone you trust. Just start talking. There are many aspects to those few minutes. Most important; you were there and you did what you could. In the long term, I think that will be meaningful to you.
Please let us know what happened. And please consider two things. First, your mom was very lucky to have you and your wife right there when she needed CPR. Early CPR is very important for survival. And second, one of my mentors' mantras is "I did not cause this, I'm here to help." You were there to do all that you could for her, and gave her the best chance by far of surviving. That is a good thing.
If one of my kids codes for some reason, I want to be right there with my gear and my cell phone with the local dispatch numbers.
We all hope that your mom survived, and her prognosis is good. Best wishes.
thanks all of your thoughts and best wishes. my mom passed on we had services monday. my wife and i are both talking with a cisd person that has helped with other bad calls in the past. again a big thanks to eveyone.
Thank you very much for sharing this with us, and I think you'll find you can bring it up here -- whatever aspect of the aftermath you're experiencing -- and find support. That can be part of everyone's healing.