BossyCow
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Okay, this is more of a rant than a question. I just had something gel that has been percolating around in my brain for some time. I read yet another post about... "Oh.. you are not being very nice to someone who is really trying to do a good thing.... " and quite frankly it makes me want to lose my lunch!
Now I admit that I'm not the warmest fuzziest person in the forum. But when did a desire for competence get confused with a lack of compassion? In order to give compassionate care to our pts, we need to be ruthless in our pursuit of excellence within our academics, education and our selection of co-workers. I recall a conversation with the outgoing Regional Trauma Council Educational Rep regarding her replacement. "You'll really like him.. he's a really nice guy" and quite frankly, since I've had a long standing relationship with honesty and a tentative relationship with tact, I replied.. "Quite frankly I don't care how nice he is. Is he efficient?" Unfortunately I found that he wasn't that efficient and after failing to adequately provide documentation, educational materials and being very difficult to contact for about a year and a half, he moved on to some other poor system.
Now don't get me wrong. I believe as an educator that its important to encourage students and to wrap a negative in a positive. To work towards problem solving, to avoid setting people up for failure and to support those who are seriously working towards a goal. But honestly folks.. don't you appreciate being told what you are doing that isn't working? Or do you want to keep yourself in that hole; digging away? I personally respect someone who can be honest enough with me to tell me what I'm not doing well. Because if I'm not aware I can't fix it.
I have friends and family to pat me on the back, compliment me and tell me how wonderful I am. I also have dogs who provide me with unconditional love and hero worship. I do not need this from those I work with. Empty praise and constant nattering on about how wonderful we all are has in my opinion become hollow.
If just doing our jobs makes us heros, what happens when we do something exceptional? How do those who are exceptional stand out when everyone is told how exceptional they are? Why do some of you leap to the defense of someone who is being made to face some truths about themselves and this line of work? Being supportive is great.. but come on... if you can't face a harsh truth here and just let it go and move on with your life, how difficult is EMS going to be on your sensitive nature?
Personally, I'll save the warm and fuzzy for my patients. I don't expect it from my co-workers, nor do I lavish it upon them. But when I do give a compliment, they know its sincere and they went way above and beyond.. and ya know what.. that's something to take pride in.
Now I admit that I'm not the warmest fuzziest person in the forum. But when did a desire for competence get confused with a lack of compassion? In order to give compassionate care to our pts, we need to be ruthless in our pursuit of excellence within our academics, education and our selection of co-workers. I recall a conversation with the outgoing Regional Trauma Council Educational Rep regarding her replacement. "You'll really like him.. he's a really nice guy" and quite frankly, since I've had a long standing relationship with honesty and a tentative relationship with tact, I replied.. "Quite frankly I don't care how nice he is. Is he efficient?" Unfortunately I found that he wasn't that efficient and after failing to adequately provide documentation, educational materials and being very difficult to contact for about a year and a half, he moved on to some other poor system.
Now don't get me wrong. I believe as an educator that its important to encourage students and to wrap a negative in a positive. To work towards problem solving, to avoid setting people up for failure and to support those who are seriously working towards a goal. But honestly folks.. don't you appreciate being told what you are doing that isn't working? Or do you want to keep yourself in that hole; digging away? I personally respect someone who can be honest enough with me to tell me what I'm not doing well. Because if I'm not aware I can't fix it.
I have friends and family to pat me on the back, compliment me and tell me how wonderful I am. I also have dogs who provide me with unconditional love and hero worship. I do not need this from those I work with. Empty praise and constant nattering on about how wonderful we all are has in my opinion become hollow.
If just doing our jobs makes us heros, what happens when we do something exceptional? How do those who are exceptional stand out when everyone is told how exceptional they are? Why do some of you leap to the defense of someone who is being made to face some truths about themselves and this line of work? Being supportive is great.. but come on... if you can't face a harsh truth here and just let it go and move on with your life, how difficult is EMS going to be on your sensitive nature?
Personally, I'll save the warm and fuzzy for my patients. I don't expect it from my co-workers, nor do I lavish it upon them. But when I do give a compliment, they know its sincere and they went way above and beyond.. and ya know what.. that's something to take pride in.